Making aggressive moves during the divorce process is not recommended. Divorcing couples should aim for collaboration rather than battle stations. That doesn't mean, though, that you should just allow your spouse to take advantage of you financially and in other ways. Being assertive and positive is the key to a successful divorce. Know what your rights are to property, custody, debt, and support then advocate for them stringently. To find out more tips on doing that, read on.
Be the First to Get a Lawyer
You aren't rushing things by speaking to a lawyer as soon as talk of divorce gets more serious. You should get the best lawyer in town and get the advantage of having both upfront information and of filing for divorce before your spouse does. There is a lot of work divorcing couples can do before they file, though, so you don't necessarily need to announce (or threaten) that you have already seen a lawyer. Getting legal representation is the first of protective and assertive moves that can serve you well throughout the divorce process.
Put Aside Some Money
It's not sneaky or illegal to set aside some cash or unused credit cards to see you through the next few months. You may encounter many costly issues that need to be resolved and it pays to have money. Not doing so could leave you desperate and making bad decisions out of desperation. For example, you could fall victim to a spouse that promises to pay you spousal support if you agree to them having full custody of your children. While you will need funds, in some cases, for living separately or for other things, keep in mind that you must be forthcoming when it's time to disclose your assets.
Know Your Issues
All divorcing parties have hot-button issues. For some, it's marital property. Perhaps a beloved pet is in contention. Or it might be child custody. It's best to identify both what is important to you and what you are willing to compromise about. For instance, you don't need to let your spouse know that you are not interested in the family home but you could be seen as compromising when you let it go for something you do want.
Take Names and Notes
If you anticipate that your spouse may challenge you in some way, be ready with a journal or at least a log of incidents. For example, you may both feel that you are the best parent for the children. However, you disagree with your spouse's take on discipline. The court might agree with you so keep up with incidents where your spouse did or did not discipline your child in the way you wish they would.
To find out more or find a divorce attorney, contact a local divorce law firm.